The problem with the gay marriage debate is…

What the hell is going on with the debate about gay marriage?
The UK government is currently planning to introduce more equality in the marriage laws, recognising the rights of same-sex partners to be called “Married”.

I have no problem with this at all, but at the same time I don’t understand what the big deal is. As long as we have LEGAL equality, why are we so desperate to be in such a club?

Every religion (barring the Pagan faiths) has resolutely refused to move with the times. They have consistently promoted hatred, bigotry, separation and, basically, everything contrary to what they purport as a faith to promote.

These are the people who incessantly quote the Bible as a source of evidence, when it is in fact, just an idea. They consistently state that the “translation of the Bible” is what is important, while also suggesting that it is gospel and should be followed to the letter – as and when it suits their argument.

Personally, I say fuck these religious groups! Why do we suddenly want to be involved in this nasty business? By all means have faith, by all means follow your true beliefs, but why suddenly do we want to align ourselves with these people by seeking their approval? We never had their approval before, so forcing them to approve is not a positive move.

Ultimately, all of the faiths which refuse to move forward are doomed to fail. They fail to see that the world is moving, and they fail to understand that the youth are their next audience. The youth of today (in the vast majority) are accepting of same-sex partnerships. Many of them explore their sexuality openly and freely without that traditional stigma or guilt associated with religion. When was the last time you met a teenager who ever went to Church?

As we have seen in Egypt recently, the youth are a driving force of change, and their form of change is also amongst some of the harshest religious beliefs on the planet. Yet they successfully demand a future more in line with liberal and democratic views. Of course, it’s likely that their protest will be greater when their future leadership tries to drag its heels on liberal reforms, but they already have that goal in sight and are not likely to let it go so easily.

So if this is the opinion of the youth in a country previously ruled by a dictator with an Islamic backdrop, it’s clear that the future for strict, dogmatic and unmoving religious beliefs in a liberal country such as the UK are completely doomed to fail.

So, I say, let the religious have their day. Their day won’t last long. We are seeing Churches close all over the country as numbers dwindle and this is solely because they have refused to move with society.

As long as we are recognised as equal partners in the eyes of the law, let the religious flail and falter as they drown in their sea of hypocrisy. It’s already too late for them. Even if they capitulated today and started moving with the times, they are already centuries behind the rest of us. They have no audience to preach to.

In thirty or forty years the Church will be nothing more than a small group of ancient crones clinging to their book and preaching to a deaf audience about the “good old days”. The rest of us will be enjoying our ceremonies, ones where we truly recognise individuality and the love between two people, and we won’t even remember that once upon a time we wanted a church wedding.

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Gay and in the Military, Why is it such a Big Deal?

So this is a simple post to ask you what YOU think about the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy and it now being removed from the American Military Industry.

Personally, I’m wondering why it took America so long? I mean, this is a country which lords over all others going on and on about “freedom and liberty”, and yet they were so behind on the most basic ideas of equality!

I don’t want this to come across as an anti-American rant, but how can a nation claim to be so superior when it allows the genital mutilation of children, allows religious groups to control equality law and equal rights policy, allows corporations to infiltrate leadership and influence policy, and refused to allow gay people to serve their country openly and honestly?
Does the average American see the hypocrisy in this, or is it simply not noticed?

I’m glad to see America moving forward in this respect. But I am suspicious as to the motive for changing this law now.

So, come on, spill your thoughts and tell everyone what you think.

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How Laptops Might Affect Your Genitals (and not in a good way!)

It might seem obvious to most of us, but some men fail to grasp the link between temperature and your “man-junk”.

Of course, we know that colder temperatures make us, shall we say, limited, but too hot and you could be damaging your fertility.

In a recent study by the Fertility and Sterility Journal (glamorous I know) found that using a laptop for only 10-15 minutes significantly raised the temperature to unsafe levels for sperm production.

And no matter how the legs were positioned with the laptop on them, this unsafe temperature was still reached after approximately 30 minutes.

Of course, those of us in the know realize that the balls rely on external temperature and their response to environmental changes to produce sperm adequately. So any adjustment to those external temperatures that cannot reasonably be found in a natural environment will affect your sperm levels.

It’s worth noting that there is no evidence to suggest that any decline in sperm due to temperature could have longer lasting affects. But it is worth remembering that if you’re trying to have a child with your partner, you need to keep your nuts comfortable.

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BPA Linked to Low Sperm Quality…?

A recent study by Dr. De-Kun Li, a scientist at the Kaiser Permanente Division of Research in Oakland, California, suggests a link between working with plastics chemicals (notably BPA) and low sperm quality.

Original article by the Huffington Post HERE.

What does this mean, and why does it affect you?

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Adult Social Networking – When is it “Too Much”?

Adult Social NetworkingAs the webmaster of the B8M8 Network (a male adult social network) I was recently asked by one of my admin team to explore the social and sexual implications of being a member of such a site.

So when does adult social networking become a problem?

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“It Gets Better” Sexuality and Teenage Suicide

I’ve delayed this post for a couple of weeks because I wanted to word it perfectly. Well, I’m not going to procrastinate any longer on this subject.

You may be aware of the spate of teenage suicides in the United States recently. These were just kids who experienced bullying and attacks from their peers AND FROM ADULTS based on nothing more than their “perceived” sexual orientation.

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Top Ten – Mens Online Dating Tips

I went on a date the other night. It went okay.

And it got me thinking about what is expected and what guys do on dates. I’ve had some odd experiences. So I thought I’d offer a few tips that I keep in mind when I’m meeting someone for the first time, whether it’s for a quick blow or a longer term partnership.

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Masturbation Toys – A Reader Comments

The Fleshlight/Fleshjack is the Number One Selling Mens Sex Toy

A couple of days ago we raised the subject of using toys during masturbation.

We had an email from a reader suggesting that his flat mate regularly takes the piss out of his because he has a fleshlight.

So, I thought I’d raise the subject here and give my take on it.

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Shaving the Soldier – Should you?

Evidence for Genital Shaving exists throughout historyIs it really a dilemma? Do guys really think much about whether it’s good to shave or not? How much should you shave off and what should you use to do it?

The 70′s are long gone, unless you’re naturally bald down there, you need to pay attention!

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Locker Room Etiquette

Two Young Men In Locker RoomThe guys over at AskMen.com often have a lot of great content, and we love them for it. But we had a look at their piece on Locker Room Etiquette and we have to wonder who wrote it, and what kind of Gym they go to!

So, we thought we’d offer a more well-rounded take on the Locker Room environment, focusing on a couple of issues the article raises.

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